Reality, Means, and Complaints (Psychotherapy Certificate Course - Session 11)

Tuesday, November 17, 2020 - 7pm - 9pm (EST)

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A Journey from Fear and Suffering to Harmony and Aliveness

This is the eleventh session in the 1-Year Course and continues every Tuesday until November 2, 2021

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A Psychotherapeutic Model Based on

The Course

A Weekly 1-Year Course

On how to help your patients, your clients, your loved ones, or yourself, put an end to

*Anxiety * Loneliness * Depression,

and Build A Fulfilled Life based on Authentic Happiness, Success, and Joy

“Nothing Real Can Be Threatened

Nothing Unreal Exists

Here Lie Peace, Harmony, and Joy”

Adapted from The Course

This week's session will cover:

  • Will to Model
  • Reality: The Only Will
  • Inception of Reality
  • The Laws of Reality
  • One with Reality
  • Means Entitlement
  • Means-Complaints Substitution

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At the end of the full Certificate Course, you will be able to help those you work with understand why:

  1. And how our brain creates the illusion of meaning from nothingness.
  2. Our thoughts do not have any meaning.
  3. We don’t understand anything.

You will also be able to help them understand:

  1. There is another way.
  2. How to get to that other way.
  3. How the other way leads to harmony, authentic happiness, authentic success, and how to reach it.

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Additional Context:

Nearly half of American families have at least one person receiving some form of mental health treatment, of which psychotherapy is the most common one.

The model in the Course makes up for all shortcomings found in our usual evidence-based practices, including CBT, DBT, or in psychoanalysis and its derivatives, while addressing the root of suffering and the formula to end it and start anew.

The Course; A model written and edited by two psychologists at the department of Medical Psychology at Columbia University, in New York.

Who is This Course For?

  • Therapists
  • Coaches
  • Anyone driven to help end suffering and help others reach aliveness and fulfillment
  • Anyone who would like to use the Model for themselves or their loved ones

Session Dates and Topics:

Week 1: Meaning and Understanding - September 8, 2020 (7-9pm EDT)

  • The Meaning of Things
  • Meaning Assignment
  • Understanding
  • The Meaning of Thoughts
  • The Why of Being Upset
  • Being Upset about Nothing

Week 2: Mind, Past, and Thoughts - September 15, 2020 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Perceiving through the Past
  • The Preoccupations of the Mind
  • The Mind Perceiving Nothing
  • Unreal Thoughts
  • Thoughts and Meaningless Effects
  • Being Upset over the Meaningless

Week 3: Cause and Effect - September 22, 2020 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Genesis of Fear
  • Only Reality is Real
  • Thoughts as Images
  • Thought as the Operant Factor
  • Perceiving as the Effect of Thought
  • Joining Minds when Perceiving
  • Joining Minds when Thinking

Week 4: Decision to Perceive Differently - September 29, 2020 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Decision to Perceive
  • Decision to Perceive Differently
  • Current Form of Perceiving
  • Giving Up Attack Thoughts
  • Best Interest Theory
  • Illusion of Purpose
  • Attack Thoughts and Invulnerability

Week 5: Perceiving What’s Real - October 6, 2020 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Wanting to Perceive
  • Wanting to Perceive Differently
  • Perceiving Reality in Everything
  • Reality in the Mind
  • The Illusion of Victimhood
  • Self-Invention of One’s World

Week 6: How to Perceive - October 13, 2020 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Another Way of Perceiving
  • The Perception of Harmony
  • Being Part of Reality
  • Seeing Everything through Reality
  • Providing for Everyone and Everything
  • Limitlessness of Reality
  • Reality as Freedom

Week 7: Nature of Reality - October 20, 2020 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Availability of Provision as Part of Reality
  • Reality Everywhere
  • Reality as Strength
  • Reality as Source
  • Perceiving in the Context of Reality
  • Thinking with Reality in Mind

Week 8: Reality as Foundation - October 27, 2020 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Reality and Real Love
  • Reality and Understanding
  • Reality and Trust
  • Lack of Basis for Fear
  • Ubiquitousness of Reality
  • Sustenance by Reality

Week 9: Role and Modeling - November 3, 2020 (7-9pm EST)

  • Modeling for Others
  • Modeling through Forgiveness
  • Modeling Reality for Others through Forgiveness
  • Unmemorable Role
  • Role Singularity
  • Role and Fulfillment

Week 10: Modeling and Complaining - November 10, 2020 (7-9pm EST)

  • Being Part of Real Love
  • Real Love and Complaint
  • Complaining and Modeling
  • Freedom through Mismodeling
  • Freedom Only through Reality, Role Singularity, and Forgiveness
  • Complaining and Revolting against Reality

Week 11: Reality, Means, and Complaints - November 17, 2020 (7-9pm EST)

  • Will to Model
  • Reality: The Only Will
  • Inception of Reality
  • The Laws of Reality
  • One with Reality
  • Means Entitlement
  • Means-Complaints Substitution

Week 12: The Problem and Its Solution - November 24, 2020 (7-9 EST)

  • Insight into the Problem
  • Separation: The Only Problem
  • Separation: A Solved Problem
  • Revision of the First 12 weeks

Winter Break - November 25, 2020 - January 11, 2021

Week 13: True Nature - January 12, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • Means Perceived in Reality
  • Reality and Strength Are One
  • Reality, Fulfillment, and Harmony
  • The Unthreatened Nature
  • Oneness
  • Self-Realization

Week 14: Role, Acceptance, and Happiness - January 19, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • True Self
  • Acceptance
  • The One Role
  • One’s Part
  • Perfect Happiness
  • Reality, Will, and Happiness

Week 15: Seeking, Truth, Giving, and Receiving - January 26, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • Reality, Love, and Happiness
  • Seeking
  • Reality, Harmony, Fulfillment, and Me
  • Listening to Truth
  • Truth and Correction
  • Giving and Receiving

Week 16: Respite, Forgiveness, and Appreciation - February 2, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • Respite in Reality
  • Reality and Me
  • Key to Happiness
  • Forgiveness Outcome
  • Appreciation
  • One with Reality

Week 17: The Worlds and Wants - February 9, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • Receiving
  • Outcome of Giving
  • Love Only in Reality
  • The World and Wants
  • Beyond This World
  • Impossibility of 2 Worlds

Week 18: Sickness, Liberation, and Self-Defense - February 16, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • Failure
  • Liberation
  • Valuing
  • The Perception of Forgiveness
  • Self-Defense
  • Sickness

Week 19: Recovery, Wellness, and Cure - February 23, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • Recovery
  • Wellness
  • Self-Forgiveness
  • Cure

Week 20: Working with Reality - March 2, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • Echoes of Reality
  • Decision
  • Safety
  • Identity
  • Stepping Back
  • Working with Reality

Week 21: Disappearing Fear and Anger - March 9, 2021 (7-9pm EST)

  • New Experience
  • Learning to Give and Receive
  • Giving as Receiving
  • Fear as Foreign
  • Disappearing Fear and Anger
  • One with Reality

Week 22: Talents, Freedom, and Entitlement - March 16, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Freedom
  • One with the Source
  • Denying Reality
  • Talents and Gifts
  • One Life
  • Being Entitled

Week 23: Living in Harmony - March 23, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Living
  • Compassion
  • Trusting
  • Home
  • Asking True Inheritance
  • Choosing Harmony

Week 24: One’s Part - March 30, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Doing One’s Part
  • Reciprocity
  • Recognition
  • Review of the Previous 12 Weeks

Week 25: Art and Science of Living - April 6, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Feeling Loved
  • Choosing Authentic Happiness
  • Who Am I
  • Purpose
  • Learning
  • The Future

Week 26: Freedom from Perception - April 13, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Love and Appreciation
  • Attack and Self-Attack Phenomenon
  • Appreciation in Giving
  • Condemning and Injuring
  • Freedom from Perception
  • The Only Source of Harmony

Week 27: Mind Adjustment - April 20, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Still Thoughts
  • Living and Moving
  • The One Life
  • Unconditional Love
  • Self-Love
  • Adjusting Mind

Week 28: Returning to Reality - April 27, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Returning
  • Knowledge
  • Today
  • Preserved Identity
  • Seeking and Finding
  • Replacing Thoughts

Week 29: Guilt Be Gone - May 4, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  1. Remembering
  2. Being Undismayed
  3. Guided by Reality
  4. Guilt Be Gone
  5. Self-Assurance
  6. Serving

Week 30: Worthiness - May 11, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Arising
  • Worthiness
  • False Humility
  • Unjustified Fear
  • Surrounded by Reality
  • Self-Love and Love of Others

Week 31: Ending Suffering and Loss - May 18, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Blindness
  • Suffering
  • Ending Suffering and Loss
  • Limitation
  • Despair
  • Beyond All Thoughts

Week 32: Goal Setting - May 25, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Extension
  • Words and Actions
  • Choosing the Day
  • The Daily Goal
  • Daily Choice of Reality
  • Overlooking the Unreal

Week 33: Sense of Security - June 1, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • The Attainable
  • Already There
  • Sense of Security
  • Unity
  • Clarity
  • Joining In

Week 34: Letting Go - June 8, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • End of Deception
  • Acknowledgment
  • Reality Centered Life
  • Letting Be
  • New Perception
  • Power

Week 35: Feeling Undisturbed - June 15, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Moment to Moment Choice
  • Out of Illusions
  • Feeling Undisturbed
  • As They Are
  • Immunity
  • One Message

Week 36: Authentic Freedom - June 22, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Imposition
  • Authentic Freedom
  • Withholding
  • Limitlessness
  • Hurt Only Thoughts
  • Determination
  • Conclusions and Review of Previous 12 Weeks

Week 37: Self-image, Conflicts, and Grief - June 29, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Self-Image
  • Grief
  • Expectation
  • Conflicts
  • Substitution
  • Others as Teachers

Week 38: Fear, Past, Present, and Future - July 6, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Farewell to the Past
  • Embracing the Present
  • Day of Quietness and Harmony
  • The End in Mind
  • Fear, Past, Present, and Future

Week 39: Body and Reality - July 13, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Understanding the Body
  • The Sight of Reality
  • Reality through Us
  • Gifting Self-Forgiveness and Forgiveness of Others
  • Acceptance through Gratitude
  • Endless Self

Summer Break - July 14, 2021 - August 2, 2021

Week 40: Mirror of Perception - August 3, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Judging, Suffering, and Feeling of Abandonment
  • Restored Sight
  • Restoring Perfection
  • Perception as a Mirror
  • Futility of Comparisons

Week 41: Fearlessness, Real Goals, and Accepting More - August 10, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Doing Less and Accepting More
  • Conflicting Goals
  • The Only Time There Is
  • Embracing Real Goals
  • Fearlessness

Week 42: A Future Different From the Past - August 17, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Relieved from Judgements
  • Judgment-Free and Real Perception
  • New Perception
  • A Future Different From the Past
  • Belonging

Week 43: Authentic Success - August 24, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Personal Belonging
  • A Special Place to Fill
  • Means and End
  • Chief Aim
  • Authentic Success

Week 44: Giving Up All Suffering - August 31, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Source of Authentic Freedom
  • Giving Away Illusions
  • Giving Up All Sense of Loss
  • The Way
  • Insane Wants, Insane World

Week 45: Real Cause of Suffering - September 7, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • An Effect of Reality
  • Impossible to Fail
  • Interdependence
  • Saying Yes
  • End to Mind Self-Attack
  • Real Cause of Suffering
  • The Hidden Treasures of Life in Reality
Week 46: Freedom From Suffering - September 14, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)
  • Perceiving Others Differently
  • Ending False Perception through Forgiveness
  • Harmlessness
  • All a Product of Thoughts
  • Asking Well
  • Freedom From Suffering
  • Reflection

Week 47: Exponential Growth - September 21, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Plan, Means, and Action
  • The Sense of Deserving
  • The Feedback Loop
  • Exponential Growth
  • Seeking the Things of Time
  • Cause and Effect of Anger
  • Letting Go of Anger

Week 48: Ending Sense of Separation - September 28, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Freeing Everyone and Everything
  • Reality and Solution in Relationships
  • Everyone, A Guide
  • Suffering Vs. Harmony
  • Unified Purpose
  • Togetherness
  • Choice of Now

Week 49: Ending Misery - October 5, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Sickness Vs. Health
  • Reality, Means, and Final Outcome
  • Myself and My Self
  • Ending Misery
  • All Through Oneself
  • Directed Harmony
  • Conclusions and Review of Previous 12 Weeks

Week 50: Beyond The Year - October 12, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Constant Masterminding
  • One Thought Away
  • Asking
  • Arriving Home
  • Mind Higher Functions

Week 51: Final Application I - October 19, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • Meaning
  • Mind, Past, and Thoughts
  • Cause and Effect
  • Decision
  • Reality
  • Role and Modeling

Week 52: Final Application II - October 26, 2021 (7-9pm EDT)

  • The Problem and Its Solution
  • True Nature
  • Acceptance and Happiness
  • Giving and Receiving
  • Respite, Forgiveness, and Appreciation
  • Wants and Wants

Week 53: Final Application III & Reflections (BONUS WEEK) - November 2, 2021

  • Wellness and Cure
  • Authentic Freedom
  • Reflection and Graduation Plan

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Frequently Asked Questions


What is the Course?
The Psychotherapeutic Model based on the root of the issue, addressing where the real problem is.
What’s special about this Model?
What’s special about this therapeutic Model can be summed as follows: “Since only the mind can be sick, only the mind can be healed.”
How is the Psychotherapeutic Model in The Course different from the current evidence-based psychotherapies?
For Psychotherapy to lead to real and sustainable transformation of the individual, it is necessary that he/she begins to question his/her reality. Though most other forms of psychotherapies help individuals begin to open their mind, a shift in perception is required for individuals to get to know reality and all the benefits that come along with it. The Course provides the kind of shift necessary for this level of transformation.
How does this Psychotherapeutic Model work?
Everyone who suffers does so because of a veil of reality for that person. This Psychotherapeutic model helps individuals remove this veil. This is done by helping individuals realize the illusion behind the type of cause and effect relationship that they have been led to believe in.
How will success or outcomes be measured?
When implemented well, this Model leads to a full transformation of the individual at all levels and in a sustainable way. For example, 1. Individuals will learn to reconsider and correctly evaluate causes; 2. Individuals will learn who they really are and how to be self-realized, self-actualized, or fulfilled. This all becomes a natural process once their veil has been removed; 3. Individuals fully understand what forgiveness really is and that it is natural for them to forgive and to live in harmony with everyone and everything in the world.
Does this Psychotherapeutic Model work for everyone or every type of symptom, problem, or situation that someone would present with in therapy or coaching?
Everyone in need of help, regardless of the form of his/her distress, has a veil that is blocking reality, leading him/her to attack him/herself, thinking that he/she is attacking others. The mere fact that they are suffering could be sufficient proof that they are attacking themselves but the veil itself that leads them to attack others will not let them understand that their suffering comes from their attack against themselves. This Psychotherapeutic Model helps restore individuals’ awareness and the ability to make their own decisions because they have learned to reverse their thinking, and they have understood that all that had been going on in their life was all a matter of projection, which they have now learned to stop, thanks to their work with you, using this Psychotherapeutic Model.
Is this Model an evidence-based practice?
This Psychotherapeutic Model is the most comprehensive form of all psychotherapies. It not only encompasses what is already present in all other evidence-based practices, but it also addresses the shortcomings found in these practices by addressing all suffering at its root - the mind - by using the immutable facts that have been proven by Neuroscience, the Sciences of Psychodynamics, and the premises of CBT. This Psychotherapeutic Model is therefore based on the scientifically proven facts about human suffering, and related causes and effects.
Do I need to attend all 53 weeks in order to get my certificate?
Yes. If you missed a week, you must do the self-study (recorded) webinar prior to attending the subsequent week. Otherwise, you risk accumulating gaps, which may, in turn, lead to an inability to use the model adequately to help those who come to you with their suffering.
Can I start this Course even after it has already started?
If you register after this Course has already started, you must agree to watch all the self-study (recorded) classes before you attend your first live class. Otherwise, you will likely be unable to understand the model, and you will therefore not be able to use it to properly help others.
Are there any other requirements to getting a certificate besides completing each and every one of the 53 classes?
Yes. (1) After each of the 53 classes, you must take and pass a post-test and complete an evaluation. You must score at least 80% to obtain a CEU certificate for that particular class. (2) At the end of the course, we will verify if you received all 53 certificates. (3) Once you have all 53 certificates, you must present a paper that contains at least the following points: A. Your summary of the Course; B. The main points; C. Your personal take; D. How it differs from all other known forms of psychotherapies; D. How it is meant to be transformative and mind-changing for everyone who will seek your help; E. What will it take for its transformative elements to remain intact; F. How you plan to ensure fidelity as you practice it. There is no exception to this requirement. No one will be able to receive a certificate of completion for this Course without having met the above requirements.
Does this course offer CEUs?
CEUs are offered through this course for all social workers throughout the United States, except the following three states: New Jersey, Michigan, and West Virginia. This course also offers CEUs for all social workers and Mental Health Counselors in the state of New York.
What are your reimbursement policies?
Anyone who registered for this Course through any of the three payment plans, and who wishes to withdraw, for whatever reason, is entitled to a reimbursement, with no questions asked other than for improvement purposes. The reimbursement will be minus the price of each single webinar having attended by the date of wish to withdraw.
Is this whole Certificate Course at No additional cost for all SWEET Members?
Yes, the SWEET Institute pledges to make all courses available for free to all members who have continued to maintain their membership. Starting January 1, 2021, all new members may or not pay for this course or other certificate courses, based on membership level. Until then, we ask members to please not pay for the course to avoid the use of resources required in the reimbursement process. If you are a member and are having difficulties registering for free, please contact us.
In addition to discounts, what else do I get for signing up for the Course?
You have access for free to a practice group that takes place every other week for 90 minutes. This practice group is like group supervision on the implementation of the Model; review of key points for further clarification; and any additional insight needed in the application of the Model in clinical care or in coaching.
What is the best way to apply this Psychotherapeutic Model in my practice?
This Model is designed to always work, but it needs to be implemented adequately. Adequate implementation entails ensuring that clients practice their daily insights and apply them on a daily basis. For that to take place, you will be making use of accountability, which requires each and every one of your clients to have an accountability partner.
What is the best way to ensure that each and every one of my clients has an accountability partner?
One of the best ways to do so is to run a weekly group with all your clients with whom you will be applying this Model. In this group, you will be pairing up your clients and each pair will be responsible to help hold each other accountable. Each pair will also have a scheduled time to speak on a weekly basis for at least twenty minutes.
Does that mean I will need to know how to run groups?
At the end of this one-year Psychotherapy Certificate Course, you will find yourself skilled in not only running your groups, but also will discover many other talents in you that you may currently not be aware of.
Is this Certificate Course to help clinicians, or for clinicians to better help their clients?
This Psychotherapeutic Model is likely to be novel for most clinicians and coaches and almost all clients. For clients to best benefit from it, their clinicians ought to learn it. As clinicians and coaches learn the Model in preparation to help their clients, they too will have gone through a process of transformation.
What if, as a clinician or coach, I just want to learn the Model to help my clients, and I do not wish to improve my own life?
What any clinicians or coaches wish to do with their own life is not a requirement to learn the Model to help their clients. What will happen is that as one learns the Model to help their clients, one will likely find it useful for one’s own life as well.

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Your Facilitator and Co-Facilitator


Mardoche Sidor, MD and Karen A. Dubin, PhD, LCSW
Mardoche Sidor, MD and Karen A. Dubin, PhD, LCSW

Mardoche Sidor, MD

Mardoche Sidor, MD is a Harvard-trained Quadruple Board Certified Psychiatrist, Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University, School of Physicians and Surgeons, trained in and taught all major psychotherapeutic modalities, including and not limiting to CBT, DBT, Family Systems, and Psychodynamic Psychotherapy. He is also the author of 3 books including Journey to Empowerment; Discovering Your Worth; and The Power of Faith. Dr. Sidor has worked both as a primary care physician and Medical director in three different settings, including a Chief Medical Officer of Center for Alternative Sentencing and Employment Services (CASES). He is a main facilitator for the SWEET Institute.

Karen Dubin-McKnight, PhD, LCSW

Karen Dubin-McKnight, PhD, LCSW is a Columbia-trained Social Worker with wide clinical, teaching, and supervision experience. She also has a background in management, mentorship, and leadership that spans over 20 years. Her added passion is in advocacy and coaching. She has previously held Executive-Level positions and is currently Adjunct Faculty at Columbia University School of Social Work and Adelphi University School of Social Work. She maintains a private practice, working with individuals who have experienced loss and trauma, and also provides clinical supervision and management training. She is also a main facilitator for the SWEET Institute.


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